Jay Sennett |||

Pursuing Goals I’ve Created

Pursuing goals I’ve created as always been a challenge. I have found it easy to create many goals over my adult lifetime. I have always struggled to follow the goals I create for myself.

External goals for others are easier for me to keep, especially work-related goals. The struggle seems to center around a pact I make with myself. Isn’t the pact making central to keeping my goals? I agree to do what I say I am going to do.

But the ones I create and keep for myself?

I’d give myself a solid D minus over the last several years. The number of goals I’ve claimed as desirable remains, for me, innumerable. All but a few remain unfulfilled.

Advice bloggers and columnists suggest writing goals down (“goals not written down are just wishes”); others suggest sharing goals publicly; still others suggest mapping goals to strategic visions. None of these strategies worked for me. The truth is I don’t think I’ve cared very much for or about myself over my lifetime. I’ve tended to blow sunshine up my own arse about what I’ve said I’ve wanted for myself. Over the last several weeks and months - since I worked with a great career counselor late last year - I’ve found I can now set and achieve goals for myself.

The linchpin has been knowing I am a writer. With that clarity in mind I’m less inclined to delude myself with my own, self-created smoke screens. I trust myself more. I’m willing to create self-talk that supports me in pursuing my own goals. I value myself more because I’ve excavated what is important to me.

The key for me is that I believe I am someone who is worth improving, someone for whom pursuing goals is valuable. In pursuing these goals I increase my sense of self-worth, which makes me want to pursue more goals. The cycle becomes self-fulfilling.

Until I was willing to believe in my writing and myself, I flailed. I just seemed to float along with no long-term action to support myself. Increasingly I am more interested in creating conditions for my own success, and for that self-knowledge, I am grateful.

Up next Gratitudes: Going to Bed Early Going to bed early is an exquisite luxury. An Actor’s Voice An actor’s voice can be the most distinctive thing about them, whether that of Marilyn Monroe — which was variously compared to
Latest posts Voices in Time: Sylvia Rivera Quote: Language Across and Beyond 001 Breckenridge Untitled Clouds with Power Tower How to Write 1.2 Million Words a Year Curated Reading in Progressive Art & Culture • No. 1 Caveat Scriptor: Let the Writer Beware Scribbler’s Paradise A Female to Male Transsexual Reflects on Gender and Biology Transsexual Intel on Wearing a Bow Tie Writing In and Out Images We, The Transsexuals Scribbler’s Paradise: 100% Effort You: A Transsexual Love Story Sincerely, Your Transgender Friend When a Beta Reader Says No Do I Write What I Want to Read? Wonderful, Radical Transsexual Acceptance A Minimalist Guide to Gender - Transgender or Otherwise Sohini Chakraborty - Dance for Empowering Revolution No One Talks About Murder Like They Talk About Transsexual Genitalia Call Me Enraged: Simplistic Transsexual Metaphors Be Daring: Love the Body You Have, Not the One You Want Sister Fa - Creativity and Dynamic Social Justice Off-Kilter Transsexuality: The Barrel of a Gun A Beautiful Form of Politeness What’s Up With Cisgender Anyway? Download SOM and Oh Sh!t! Download Your Free Books Transgender Story: A Pink-Ruffled Shirt Makes the Man